Southern Men?

[fuzzis]

I post on a women's issues board, and they're currently discussing Southern men...listing characteristics, traits, advantages, disadvantages, etc. Some of what has been posted cracks me right on up, but the rest of it is on target...I think.

I thought about posting this in No Man's Land, but I decided that there might be a wider variety input here in the open. :-D

What makes Southern men different? better? do you think?

:smt102

fuzzis

[Buggy]

Are Southern men different?

[Conveyor Belt]

You've been around, you tell us?

or copy some of the posts from there so we can see what's going on...

honestly, I haven't been around, and I don't know what makes us different, if we are at all. Are we? I know there are some who'd like to think we are.

[virgo]

Well, I was born and raised up North and there is a definately a difference between Northern men and Southern men. I'll have to think more about this one and post later, but until then:

There used to be this saying between some friends of mine that Northern men will tell you right away what they think of you, whereas Southern men don't want to be rude so they lead you on.

[Bahlk]

But do we southern men really have accents?

[virgo]

But do we southern men really have accents?

Yes, you do :)

[fuzzis]

Are Southern men different?

You've been around, you tell us?

or copy some of the posts from there so we can see what's going on...

honestly, I haven't been around, and I don't know what makes us different, if we are at all. Are we? I know there are some who'd like to think we are.

There seems to be some consensus that Southern men are different. To know them is to love them. :-D

I'm thinking about it, trying to figure out if I really think there's a difference or not. :smt102

fuzzis

[Maggie-Doodle]

IMO, men are men! Just like women are women! There are good and bad ones no matter where they are from! Years ago when I was dating about the only difference I noticed were that southern men were a little more courteous..but I think that also went for the girls/women too. I was brought up to say yes/no mam and yes/no sir and please and thank you...most of the guys were too...I have found people from other areas of the country do not do that or not very often...it was just something that was taught to us from the time we could talk. I am 55 yoa and I still say that to folks, always will. We just DIDN'T answer someone "yeah" or "naw"..we would have been slapped!

[No-Halo]

Yes, you do :)
Nah we'uns dawnt!

[HIPPY]

But do we southern men really have accents?

YES we do! I do alot of travel for my job and whenever I am out west or up north I get comments.

We southernmen also dont care as much about lookin pretty like alot of the northern metrosexuals:smt118

[fuzzis]

Well, I was going to say that most of the Southern men I've met are more mannerly, but lately a few of you have been blowing that one out of the water. *sigh*

fuzzis

[Bahlk]

Well I guess compared to some guys from...I don't know Illinois, Wisconsin, or Canada we do have accents...but it's the northerners that really have the accents

[Bahlk]

Well, I was going to say that most of the Southern men I've met are more mannerly, but lately a few of you have been blowing that one out of the water. *sigh*

fuzzis

You mean ya'll still want the car door opened for you?

[fuzzis]

You mean ya'll still want the car door opened for you?

If he wants to, I'll let him (and I won't stop him...I have a few more manners than that my ownself), but that wasn't exactly what I was talking about.

fuzzis

[No-Halo]

Well, I was going to say that most of the Southern men I've met are more mannerly, but lately a few of you have been blowing that one out of the water. *sigh*


fuzzis
That dang Noway

Well I guess compared to some guys from...I don't know Illinois, Wisconsin, or Canada we do have accents...but it's the northerners that really have the accents
Right on brother Bahlk!! :smt038

[IGID]

I'm pretty sure even northern men don't like being called mfers in a public forum. Most manners go out the window.

[No-Halo]

If he wants to, I'll let him (and I won't stop him...I have a few more manners than that my ownself), but that wasn't exactly what I was talking about.

fuzzis
Ok lets say I was walking outta Walmart and saw Fuzzis about to step in a mud hole as she was headed towards the store. I immediately grab Bahlk and throw him into the mud puddle and Fuzzis steps on him to keep from getting her shoes muddy.....is that what you refer to Fuzzis?

[Bahlk]

I open my wife's car door for her...pull out her chair just because that's the way I was raised. Once daughter starts dating, don't believe dad wont be watching when the date come driving up to see if he opens the door for her...I'm nosy that way

[fuzzis]

I'm pretty sure even northern men don't like being called mfers in a public forum. Most manners go out the window.

That wasn't what I was talking about either. I was referring more to a lack of discretion.

:smt102

fuzzis

[IGID]

That wasn't what I was talking about either. I was referring more to a lack of discretion.

:smt102

fuzzisAre you in no ma'am under a alias reading some of our posts?

[fuzzis]

Are you in no ma'am under a alias reading some of our posts?

Uh, no. Talk amongst yourselves, but what was that you said to me awhile back? "Consider the source"? :smt118

fuzzis

[No-Halo]

Are you in no ma'am under a alias reading some of our posts?
No IGID she's probably talking about a PM I sent her that was in poor taste.
I apologize Fuzzis.

[fuzzis]

No IGID she's probably talking about a PM I sent her that was in poor taste.
I apologize Fuzzis.

Not that either. :smt118

Back to the original topic, though...I will say that a Southern man was the only one who thought it would be cool to bring his friend with him for the evening without checking first. Talk about a lack of manners. :smt103 Rather awkward moment when I told him (rather discretely I think), to take himself and his buddy back to the house. :smt118

fuzzis

[Bahlk]

I promise to behave in the future Fuzzis

:smt059

[No-Halo]

Not that either. :smt118

Back to the original topic, though...I will say that a Southern man was the only one who thought it would be cool to bring his friend with him for the evening without checking first. Talk about a lack of manners. :smt103 Rather awkward moment when I told him (rather discretely I think), to take himself and his buddy back to the house. :smt118

fuzzis
Ok, you still like my poor taste PM's then....whew. :smt118

[virgo]

I don't know if this because of most of the Southern men I have been around for the past 10 years or so, but Southern men are really hardworkers. They have big hearts and really care about the job that they do.

A lot of the Northern men I know work in higher-paying, snooty jobs and they really aren't that happy.

Also, Southern men are more like gentlemen than Northern men. But then you do have some men who think they are God's gift to women down here.

[virgo]

And I still say that Southern men don't come across as sincere (at least not at first). They tell you something because they think it is what you want to hear, not because it is what they want to say or how they feel. Thus, referring to that saying between my friends and I....

[fuzzis]

I don't know if this because of most of the Southern men I have been around for the past 10 years or so, but Southern men are really hardworkers. They have big hearts and really care about the job that they do.

A lot of the Northern men I know work in higher-paying, snooty jobs and they really aren't that happy.

Also, Southern men are more like gentlemen than Northern men. But then you do have some men who think they are God's gift to women down here.

Hmmmmm...I guess I hung out with Southern-wannabes? All of the guys I know (all over)...hardworkers, big hearts, gentlemanly. There's the odd one thrown in there, but I think that's to be expected.

If there's a difference, I think it might be that practiced smoothness...charm I guess.

fuzzis

[ynotme297]

That wasn't what I was talking about either. I was referring more to a lack of discretion.

:smt102

fuzzis

do ya mean, like getting a motel room instead of using the back seat?:attack:

[EricStratton]

Southern men are less like women than Northern men.

[Tully Mars]

Interesting topic Fuzzis. Although I have been a Southerner all of my life, I guess that I am not quite traveled enough to really understand what distinguishes us from men in other regions of the country. For the most part I think that manners probably has a lot to do with it. But then again, I think that is probably more of a regional phenomenon than a gender-related one. I know that my own parents instilled a sense of respect for others in me that, while I might not have appreciated or understood it growing up, is still with me today.

I do kind of like the fact that Southern men are somewhat of an enigma to folks from other regions. While I was in Miami (yea it's in the south but sure isn't Southern) last year I was left with the distinct impression that folks there didn't quite know what to make of these three rough around the edges Southern boys from Alabama and Mississippi. Now that may have been somewhat of a left-handed compliment but I guess I really didn't do or say anything that gave them clues to figure us out.

[daisy]

Fuzzis, when I was in California a friend of mine was real envious because I was from the South. She had the impression that Southern men treated women better than she was used to being treated by California men. Living in a National Park I met men from everywhere and some of the men were nice and some were not. My favorite men were from Michigan and Illinois and of course the South. And some good Californians also.

I think people are people and it depends on how they are raised. I do know our recruiter came to USM because of the work ethic of Southerners.

[daisy]

Fuzzis, also the Texas and Oklahoma men were nice. That's southern. I think it's the way they treat us like the fairer sex. They don't treat us like one of the guys. But not all Southern men have the respect thing down.

Southern men are more considerate and helpful in my opinion.

[Hermione]

Texas and Oklahoma men are descended from Tennesseans.

[XC9]

I believe men from all states are just alike. You have nice gentlemenly dudes, rednecks, business men and just plain slobs. There are all types of men in all states. It all depends on how people are raised.

[No-Halo]

No-Halo <-----Redneck :smt118

[Conveyor Belt]

Converyor Belt<------ Just a guy.

[virgo]

No-Halo <-----Redneck :smt118

lol

[No-Halo]

lol
At least I'm honest about it. :smt118

[virgo]

At least I'm honest about it. :smt118

That's true, but I don't fault you for it. I mean, look at the area in which you work in/near. It was only a matter of time :) :smt118

[No-Halo]

That's true, but I don't fault you for it. I mean, look at the area in which you work in/near. It was only a matter of time :) :smt118
I was long before then. I like big mud tires, especially on my truck and shooting fireworks at my neighbors. yeehaa :smt118

[SouthChic]

Men from the South are more courteous, sensitive, and family-oriented. They also seem more religious because, hey, we are in the Bible belt. Northern men are perceived as overaggressive, fast-paced, ambitious, insensitive and arrogant.

Southern men have an uncanny "charm" which makes them somehow irresistible. Southern men have a higher respect for their mother, and that means a lot to a woman because it usually determines how he will treat a mate. A man who upholds his mother is sure to make a better husband. They treat a woman the way they would want their mother to be treated. There are values present with Northern men, but they allow society to sway their thinking and values. Southern men are gentlemen, with values instilled. They are also perceived as hard-working. The family comes first. Their value for relationships makes them more determined and committed toward making a relationship work, which makes them a better marriage partner.

That's my idea of a southern man, and I married to one of them. :smt038

[BlueDogDemocrat]

We don't talk through our nose and don't say things like "kaufee" and "ruuf".

Them yankees are sissy boys too.

[Engelbert Humperdinck]

No-Halo <-----Redneck :smt118

Converyor Belt<------ Just a guy.

Dumb_arse_here <-----Dumb Arse, But SEXY!! :smt118

[dollfus46]

Are Southern men different?

Yes. Northern men have an accent.

[fuzzis]

The consensus at the other place is that Southern men have a tendency to be philanderers, much moreso than "Northerners"...in that they're so charming and smooth that they get themselves into dangerous waters. :smt102

fuzzis

[amanda]

Men are men no matter where they come from. It really does depend on how they are raised. I believe that people from the South, men and women, that are different than our counter-parts up North. We are more easy going, fun-loving, big-hearted, spiritual people and that makes us VERY special, even you No-Halo. :smt054

[dollfus46]

I open my wife's car door for her...pull out her chair just because that's the way I was raised. Once daughter starts dating, don't believe dad wont be watching when the date come driving up to see if he opens the door for her...I'm nosy that way

It just amazes me how things have changed since I was dating as a teen. Good thing I didn't have a daughter. I'd have sent many a young man packing when he came to pick her up.

Not that either. :smt118

Back to the original topic, though...I will say that a Southern man was the only one who thought it would be cool to bring his friend with him for the evening without checking first. Talk about a lack of manners. :smt103 Rather awkward moment when I told him (rather discretely I think), to take himself and his buddy back to the house. :smt118

fuzzis

Surely you jest. What's with that? Good for you.

Ok, you still like my poor taste PM's then....whew. :smt118

Heh heh heh. That's funny.

Interesting topic Fuzzis. Although I have been a Southerner all of my life, I guess that I am not quite traveled enough to really understand what distinguishes us from men in other regions of the country. For the most part I think that manners probably has a lot to do with it. But then again, I think that is probably more of a regional phenomenon than a gender-related one. I know that my own parents instilled a sense of respect for others in me that, while I might not have appreciated or understood it growing up, is still with me today.

I think being raised "Southern" with manners and respect is a sign of the times. I"m not sure it's widely instilled in our children as it used to be. Of course there are those of us who insist on it, but I've noticed a lot of kids who are so rude and unruly and all the parents do is give them warning after warning without backing it up.

I do kind of like the fact that Southern men are somewhat of an enigma to folks from other regions. While I was in Miami (yea it's in the south but sure isn't Southern) .

Psssst! Florida isn't Southern. Only geographically.

Texas and Oklahoma men are descended from Tennesseans.

Tennessee is an enigma to me. But I'm descended from Tennesseans on my Mother's side. For some reason, maybe from the movies, I don't consider Texas nor Oklahoma as "Southern" states. Southwest perhaps.

[Tully Mars]

Psssst! Florida isn't Southern. Only geographically.


Yea, I know...that's what I said:


While I was in Miami (yea it's in the south but sure isn't Southern)

[58ford]

Does anyone remember a study on testosterone levels a few years ago that showed that southern men esp. from MS had the highest levels in the country, and went on to say that this was a dangerous condition because it made us too violent?

[No-Halo]

Men are men no matter where they come from. It really does depend on how they are raised. I believe that people from the South, men and women, that are different than our counter-parts up North. We are more easy going, fun-loving, big-hearted, spiritual people and that makes us VERY special, even you No-Halo. :smt054
Even though I'm very "special-ed" Amanda I still do things for my wife that I did when we first started dating 20 years ago. There's probably more that I could do I'm sure but one that I always do is hold the door for her, that goes for any woman that approaches a door and a few feminine lookin guys that can't handle a big heavy door. :smt118

[fuzzis]

Dammit Halo! I was gonna say "like noway?" but you changed your post. :smt070

fuzzis

[No-Halo]

Dammit Halo! I was gonna say "like noway?" but you changed your post. :smt070

fuzzis
Ok, I'll go put it back in...LOL

[No-Halo]

Does anyone remember a study on testosterone levels a few years ago that showed that southern men esp. from MS had the highest levels in the country, and went on to say that this was a dangerous condition because it made us too violent?
We're not that violent are we?
Now shut-up and sit down before I have to.... :smt038

[daisy]

Fuzzis, I am going to go back to what brought this up. A gentlemen bringing a tag along friend and that bothered you. What quality is it that you wished he had shown then? I am just reaching here.:smt102

[Bahlk]

Not speaking for Fuz...but personally I would think bringing a friend along on a (and I'm taking it this was a "date")date is in poor taste.

[daisy]

Bahlk, I would have also been insulted. Or he didn't think I was that special to be with or just one on one. I guess I am lazy and didn't want to scroll back. Sorry, Fuzzis.
:smt102

[fuzzis]

Fuzzis, I am going to go back to what brought this up. A gentlemen bringing a tag along friend and that bothered you. What quality is it that you wished he had shown then? I am just reaching here.:smt102

Not speaking for Fuz...but personally I would think bringing a friend along on a (and I'm taking it this was a "date")date is in poor taste.

Bahlk, I would have also been insulted. Or he didn't think I was that special to be with or just one on one. I guess I am lazy and didn't want to scroll back. Sorry, Fuzzis.
:smt102


Ah, well. Hmmmmm. It wasn't exactly a "date", and insulted doesn't quite cover it. The funny thing was he knew, the minute that I opened the door that he'd crossed the line. It was written all over my face (and I'm told everything I think flies right across my face...so not a good liar, unless you're a 6-8 grader), but he tried to forge ahead. Bless his heart.

He apologized profusely (and expensively) the next day, but he has yet to be invited back to the house. Nor will he be.

As for what he should have done, other than not in the first place was discuss it. Somethings aren't better as spur-of-the-moment happenings.

:smt102

fuzzis

[XC9]

At least I'm honest about it. :smt118

I appreciate your honesty No-Halo. We all know rednecks are the best! lol:smt038

[No-Halo]

I appreciate your honesty No-Halo. We all know rednecks are the best! lol:smt038
Thanks and a big YeeHaa to you XC!! :smt118

[Hermione]

I love those good gentile Southern men, but some of the good Jewish ones are pretty nice too!

(Sorry, couldn't help myself! No offense intended QM.)