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wilebill
03-21-2007, 09:32 PM
Story. (http://www.azcentral.com/offbeat/articles/0320cruel-anonymous20-ON.html)

When a California woman recently gave birth to a healthy baby just two days after learning she was pregnant, the sudden change to her life was challenging enough. What April Branum definitely didn't need was a deluge of nasty Internet comments.

Postings on message boards made cracks about Branum's weight (about 400 pounds - one reason she says didn't realize sooner she was pregnant). They also analyzed her housekeeping ability, based on a photo of her home. And they called her names. "A pig is a pig," one person wrote. Another suggested that she "go on the show The Biggest Loser.' "

"The thing that bothered me most was, people assumed because I am overweight, I'm going to be a bad mom," Branum says. "And that is not one little bit true."

It was yet another example of how the Internet - and the anonymity it affords - has given a public stage to people's basest thoughts, ones that in earlier eras likely never would have traveled past the watercooler, the kitchen table or the next barstool.

Such incidents - and there are countless across cyberspace - also raise the question: Is there anything to be done about it? Or is a decline in civil discourse simply the price that we pay for the advance of technology?

Should everyone own up to everything they say on the internet, which in more liklihood would mean less meanness? Or can anonymity be a good thing? How much good "secret" info has been passed on here by people who otherwise wouldn't have said anything if they had to attach their real name to it?

I know that different people here wish to remain anonymous for different reasons - to protect their jobs or their relationships with other people, just to name a couple. I don't think that being anonymous is inherently bad, but that some people will use that anonymity to say hurtful things.

I don't see this changing on internet forums, and I actually think that for the most part those here on MH are not as mean as other people I've seen on other sites, including the HA site.

aaron
03-21-2007, 10:25 PM
This is simply the way of the internet. People should get tougher skin when it comes to stuff like this and not worry about it. If you post something personal about yourself, be prepared to hear the truth on the internet. No filter is going to be in place. This varies from community to community, but with every one of them that I have visited and been a part of, one thing is true, they are going to be more truthful (and this means rude in some cases) than they are in real life. The younger generation has already learned this. I routinely see comments like this being made to people and they laugh about it. Sometimes, they make fun of themselves. A lot of the internet acts like the kids at your local elementary school. Which, coincidentally enough, kids are probably the ones making these comments.

So, my advice would be, do not apply comments on the internet as if they were said to you in person.

TheKing
03-21-2007, 11:36 PM
If you can't or aren't willing to accept criticism about the subject at hand...dont put it on the intarweb...simple as that

Mr. Bama
03-22-2007, 08:18 AM
Boo fricken hoo. Maybe instead of crying about it she should use it as motivation to change her lifestyle. People are just telling her the things her "friends" should have told her a long time ago. If you weigh 400lbs, live like a slob, and are shooting out babies without even knowing it, it's time for someone to say something and have a lifestyle overhaul.

big john
03-22-2007, 09:37 AM
Boo fricken hoo. Maybe instead of crying about it she should use it as motivation to change her lifestyle. People are just telling her the things her "friends" should have told her a long time ago. If you weigh 400lbs, live like a slob, and are shooting out babies without even knowing it, it's time for someone to say something and have a lifestyle overhaul.I am overweight and remember the last time someone said something to me about it ha ha.It sure as hell changed a lifestyle,that kinda BS talk from a man to a woman works real well over the ole computer,but real life can be a bone shattering bitch.:laugh: