40-year-old coach marries 16-year-old student...

[virgo]

....and he doesn't get fired. He resigns. How could her parents be OK with this?

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,285459,00.html

[ComputerDude]

Wouldn't her parents have to approve it?

[virgo]

They did approve it. At least, the article says they did. Its says they didn't want to approve it, but they did. WHAT?! If they didn't want to approve it, why did they?

[Fish-Bait]

It all started with the invention of the Atari.

[ComputerDude]

It all started with the invention of the Atari.
:confused::confused::confused::confused:

[pinkytuscadero]

I guess he should enjoy it now because I'll bet she looks around at age 30 and questions what she has missed. Of course, I could be wrong,:)

Pinky

[Fish-Bait]

:confused::confused::confused::confused:

It's a line I have been using for awhile to describe what is the matter with parent/children behavoural type crap these days...The Atari was a cheep babysitter thus stopping the life lessons that should have been taught to their children. In other words the parents quit breakin' gallberry bush swithches off and whuppin' tale. When the parent got tired of having to "deal with" a child they would simply say "go play your Atari".

[virgo]

It's a line I have been using for awhile to describe what is the matter with parent/children behavoural type crap these days...The Atari was a cheep babysitter thus stopping the life lessons that should have been taught to their children. In other words the parents quit breakin' gallberry bush swithches off and whuppin' tale. When the parent got tired of having to "deal with" a child they would simply say "go play your Atari".

Except in this case, she is likely too young for Atari, lol. Maybe Nintendo...?

[Fish-Bait]

Except in this case, she is likely too young for Atari, lol. Maybe Nintendo...?

Yes, but it ALL started with Atari!

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

oh my he probably has a kid her age if not older....

[58ford]

She don't even look ripe yet.
I wonder if she'll take him to prom.

[ComputerDude]

It's a line I have been using for awhile to describe what is the matter with parent/children behavoural type crap these days...The Atari was a cheep babysitter thus stopping the life lessons that should have been taught to their children. In other words the parents quit breakin' gallberry bush swithches off and whuppin' tale. When the parent got tired of having to "deal with" a child they would simply say "go play your Atari".
WOW we're just not gonna find a happy-medium where we can agree on, are we?
I grew up on video games, starting with the Atari and I was never told to "go play my Atari" if they didn't want to deal with me. In fact I got more "you're playing too much Atari" then I did anything else. Some parents may have used video games as a baby sitter, but really how different is that then sitting them in front of cartoons all day?

[Fish-Bait]

WOW we're just not gonna find a happy-medium where we can agree on, are we?
I grew up on video games, starting with the Atari and I was never told to "go play my Atari" if they didn't want to deal with me. In fact I got more "you're playing too much Atari" then I did anything else. Some parents may have used video games as a baby sitter, but really how different is that then sitting them in front of cartoons all day?

Not much different. You see we had a discussion here awhile back maybe in the mall thread or somewhere about the group of college/high school graduates coming through and their work ethic. I get to look at alot of job applications up here where I work and you get stuff on resumes like:
Qualifications: "I can weld anything"
and this applicant will only be 20-25 years old. When I see that is goes straight to the pile because it's complete B.S.
I had an Atari. Much like your parents did I only got to play with it for a little while before I had to go do something constructive. I am not trying to class everyone together here that has had an Atari. But when you get something nowadays that reads"40 Year Old Coach Marries Student" then I tend to use the phrase "It all started with the invention of the Atari". Thus removing the activities between parent/child. Understand better?

[ComputerDude]

Not much different. You see we had a discussion here awhile back maybe in the mall thread or somewhere about the group of college/high school graduates coming through and their work ethic. I get to look at alot of job applications up here where I work and you get stuff on resumes like:
Qualifications: "I can weld anything"
and this applicant will only be 20-25 years old. When I see that is goes straight to the pile because it's complete B.S.My wife and I talked a lot about this last night. There is more then a ten year difference between her and her younger siblings, and there are very big differences in the way they were raised and how they "turned out". I'd very much like to see this other thread you mention above so I can catch up. I have some opinions to offer.
I had an Atari. Much like your parents did I only got to play with it for a little while before I had to go do something constructive. I am not trying to class everyone together here that has had an Atari. But when you get something nowadays that reads"40 Year Old Coach Marries Student" then I tend to use the phrase "It all started with the invention of the Atari". Thus removing the activities between parent/child. Understand better?YEP!

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

i had the game where you played tennis on your tv ha ha

[ComputerDude]

i had the game where you played tennis on your tv ha hapong?

[Fish-Bait]

I will dig around in a little while and see if I can find it.

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

i don't know what it was named but that is what i had and a commodore 64 wooo hooo

[SouthChic]

My brother and I had Atari, and we turned out fine, contrary to what some may say. ;)

[Fish-Bait]

My wife and I talked a lot about this last night. There is more then a ten year difference between her and her younger siblings, and there are very big differences in the way they were raised and how they "turned out". I'd very much like to see this other thread you mention above so I can catch up. I have some opinions to offer.
YEP!

Here (http://www.myhattiesburg.com/forums/showthread.php?t=17350&highlight=Atari&page=8), post #143 is where I mentioned it. The whole thread is worth the read though.

[dream member]

Lovely...there's an example to follow! :clap:

[Bluesman]

I wonder is she pregnant??? Why else would the parents say they didn't want to but did anyway??? Maybe it was because it's gonna be a shotgun wedding.

Wait... help me out police dudes here... isn't this whole get a kid pregnant thing like statuatory rape or something? Carnal knowledge of a minor something like that... Maybe the good sheriff in the town needs to look into this.

[dollfus46]

I guess he should enjoy it now because I'll bet she looks around at age 30 and questions what she has missed. Of course, I could be wrong,:)

Pinky

If I didn't like you, I'd groan and whine here. Shame on you for slandering us "experienced" gentlemen. Hand me my viagra and my pump.:laugh:

[dream member]

So let me get this right...it's not jailbait when you marry them right? That's the key! Get married and get the kiddies...

*things that make you go ugh* -Ron White

[dream member]

If I didn't like you, I'd groan and whine here. Shame on you for slandering us "experienced" gentlemen. Hand me my viagra and my pump.:laugh:

Just stick to the experienced women geezos! :smt118

[dollfus46]

oh my he probably has a kid her age if not older....

I was 50 and my girlfriend was 27. My son was 26 What's your point? Just kidding Petal. I agree with you and I tried to tell Nita she should find someone her own age. But, unfortunately, I just had that animal magnetism. :smt118

[dream member]

I was 50 and my girlfriend was 27. My son was 26 What's your point? Just kidding Petal. I agree with you and I tried to tell Nita she should find someone her own age. But, unfortunately, I just had that animal magnetism. :smt118

animal magnetism :laugh:

[dollfus46]

Just stick to the experienced women geezos! :smt118

Hard to do when they see how I tie it around my leg and walk like Chester.:-D

[dream member]

Hard to do when they see how I tie it around my leg and walk like Chester.:-D


:clap::laugh::clap::laugh:
There he is....5 hours later! Oh...so that's the animal magnetism you were talking about! :smt118

[dollfus46]

animal magnetism :laugh:
What is this thread? Bash the snot outa everybody?

[dream member]

What is this thread? Bash the snot outa everybody?

No...it's the laugh at the guys who say funny stuff about their animal magnetism thread!!

Or the sickos who marry children!! EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

[EricStratton]

My brother and I had Atari, and we turned out fine, contrary to what some may say. ;)

Fine? According to what standards?

[SouthChic]

Fine? According to what standards?

Heyyyyyy, be nice. :smt118 Let's just say we got our butts torn up more than once and we knew how to respect our parents, unlike a lot of children these days.

[dollfus46]

Fine? According to what standards?

Sssssssssweet. :clap:

[dream member]

Heyyyyyy, be nice. :smt118 Let's just say we got our butts torn up more than once and we knew how to respect our parents, unlike a lot of children these days.

My parents had the arm from a wooden chair...when that thing came across my thigh...I knew I did something wrong! If you even correct your kids in public...someone's calling social services!!

[fuzzis]

You don't have to hit a child to teach them how to respect others. There are plenty of people all over the world who grew up without corporal punishment who are fine, upstanding people who make contributions to their communities.

[Fish-Bait]

You don't have to hit a child to teach them how to respect others. There are plenty of people all over the world who grew up without corporal punishment who are fine, upstanding people who make contributions to their communities.
I only spank mine when he does something like play with a wall outlet. I figured he will learn alot of the respect thing on his own, with a little guidance now and again.

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

I was 50 and my girlfriend was 27. My son was 26 What's your point? Just kidding Petal. I agree with you and I tried to tell Nita she should find someone her own age. But, unfortunately, I just had that animal magnetism. :smt118


the only point is that at 16 she is still a kid at 27 there is no big deal.
I have dated men 12 years older than myself I don't see a problem with the age things. But a child and a 40 married just don't sit right with me. I just don't think at age 16 no person should be getting married.

[Bluesman]

You don't have to hit a child to teach them how to respect others. There are plenty of people all over the world who grew up without corporal punishment who are fine, upstanding people who make contributions to their communities.
I hear they cane em in Singapore.

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

i never had to spank my oldest child and she is a great kid
my two year old he gets one daily

[Fish-Bait]

i never had to spank my oldest child and she is a great kid
my two year old he gets one daily

That's the difference....She and He!!!:smt118

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

I guess so. they are night and day...

[Fish-Bait]

I got a five year old boy and a 7-1/2 month old. You ought to see those two wrestle on the bed. The little one gets all worked up and mad, it's hilarious. They are practically inseperable though. When the 5 YO comes running by the bouncy the little bit tries to run with him.

[pEtAl mIsFiT]

awww how sweet... I bet they are fun to watch

I have 13 and a two year old. She is a mother hen and he is just a clown out to make everyone laugh...

[Fish-Bait]

You know, I really do dislike havin' to spank my 5 yo. He don't get it much. I had to get his attention the other night in the boat though. I turned around for a sec. and he was bent over the side tryin to pic up a piece of sargassum that was floatin' by. Sneak attacks work the best in my book. Gotta' get him when he least expects it and it seems to stick better than "when we get home you are gettin' a whuppin' boy!"

[Hermione]

I just don't think at age 16 no person should be getting married.

Once again, Daisy cuts to the heart of the issue! [doh! Petal Misfit! Though Daisy sees many things clearly as well!]<sorry! petal="" misfit!="" though="" daisy="" often="" sees="" to="" the="" heart="" of="" issues="" as="" well.=""></sorry!><sorry, petal="" misfit!="">

There are always exceptions, though. My mother has a story about a neighbor woman, married with children, probably in her 30's, who ran off with a neighbor boy, aged 18. They were married for fifty years, and very happy. That's about the only case I've ever heard of like that.
I always wonder about men who are not interested in women their own age. Doesn't it say some things about ego, low self-esteem, general stupidity, etc? And yes, in twenty years she's going to be a young woman with an old husband.</sorry,>

[daisy]

Once again, Daisy cuts to the heart of the issue!

There are always exceptions, though. My mother has a story about a neighbor woman, married with children, probably in her 30's, who ran off with a neighbor boy, aged 18. They were married for fifty years, and very happy. That's about the only case I've ever heard of like that.
I always wonder about men who are not interested in women their own age. Doesn't it say some things about ego, low self-esteem, general stupidity, etc? And yes, in twenty years she's going to be a young woman with an old husband.

Yes, but he will have a younger wife to take care of him.

Hermione, I am getting old and don't remember if I said anything about the Coach and the 16 year old. I don't agree with that if she is underage and still a student. I looked back and did not post on this until now. Were you getting me mixed up with someone else, another beautiful, intelligent lady?

I know someone who married a teacher when she graduated. He was 21 and she was 18. Happy and together with grand younguns.

How did I cut to the heart of the matter in this.???

[Fish-Bait]

I know that along time ago...say 30-50 yrs I heard from grand folks etc. that it was common for a girl to get married at 15-16-17 yrs.....

[daisy]

I know that along time ago...say 30-50 yrs I heard from grand folks etc. that it was common for a girl to get married at 15-16-17 yrs.....

Yes, it was and people didn't live as long back then so had to start having families early 'cause the Mom sometimes died during childbirth.

Now, with sexual harassment and predators and all rules in companies and schools have to be different.

A coach is in a position of influence and a high school student can be impressionable. Most of the coaches I knew taught some classes.

I once worked for a company that took all this sexual harassment seriously .

The company had strongly enforceable rules to prevent someone abusing their poser and to create a fair atmosphere for co-workers.

I could date someone at my level or lower as long as I did not have authority over them or someone higher up if they did not have power over me. Yes, it was taken seriously.

[Fish-Bait]

Like I said. It all started with the invention of the Atari.

[Hermione]

Daisy, it was Petal Misfit. Not that I actually QUOTED her in my post or anything. Sheesh, I'm the one who needs somebody to take care of them.

[daisy]

Daisy, it was Petal Misfit. Not that I actually QUOTED her in my post or anything. Sheesh, I'm the one who needs somebody to take care of them.

Hermione, thanks. We all need someone to help us and take care of us or I do.

[Fish-Bait]

O.K.. Bagel.

[Ted]

i never had to spank my oldest child and she is a great kid
my two year old he gets one dailyYeah.
It depends on the kid.

My younger brother rarely ever got a whuppin'. He was either a pretty good kid - or just slick.:) heh heh heh

Me - - Lordy, my po' Mama killed a peach tree and three azaleas cuttin' switches.
All well deserved I'll admit.:-D

[dream member]

I only spank mine when he does something like play with a wall outlet. I figured he will learn alot of the respect thing on his own, with a little guidance now and again.

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

[BS BS BS]

I wonder is she pregnant??? Why else would the parents say they didn't want to but did anyway??? Maybe it was because it's gonna be a shotgun wedding.

Wait... help me out police dudes here... isn't this whole get a kid pregnant thing like statuatory rape or something? Carnal knowledge of a minor something like that... Maybe the good sheriff in the town needs to look into this.

Not sure what the law is in North Carolina on the legal age of consent. It could be 16, laws vary by state, I know that in MS that the legal age of consent is 17, but there is also a stipulation that a person in a position of authority i.e. law enforcement, teachers, principles, etc.. can not date/or have a relationship with anyone under the age of 18. And from what i gathered from the article the school nor the sheriffs office could find any proof that there was any kind of sexual relationship between them. But that doesn't mean there wasn't. Which is probably why he resigned so that he wouldn't be in a position of authority over her. But it dang sure doesn't make it right. Actually i think its pretty sick but thats just my opinion.

[Hermione]

Wait, wait, wait. Y'all are talking about "a long time ago" and then saying "30 to 50 years ago" -- babies, 30 years ago was only 1977. We had color TV, cars, hospitals, electric lights, the Beatles, John Denver, almost everything except PC's and cell phones. What's with this talking about 30-50 years ago like it was pioneer days?

[Fish-Bait]

Wait, wait, wait. Y'all are talking about "a long time ago" and then saying "30 to 50 years ago" -- babies, 30 years ago was only 1977. We had color TV, cars, hospitals, electric lights, the Beatles, John Denver, almost everything except PC's and cell phones. What's with this talking about 30-50 years ago like it was pioneer days?
Hermi, be glad I can remember something when I was 2!!!!!
That's when granny said" yo' aint Patsy Bell got married when she wuz forteen yars' yung....It's a long time in my little old meesly fishin' world.:)

[dollfus46]

That's the difference....She and He!!!:smt118

No Kidding!! Aaaaaaaaand she acts surprised. Heh heh heh. You've got yourself a normal boy there, Petal.

[dollfus46]

You don't have to hit a child to teach them how to respect others. There are plenty of people all over the world who grew up without corporal punishment who are fine, upstanding people who make contributions to their communities.

Well, Time out didn't work with Michael. So I went back to the floggings. They seemed to work better.

[dollfus46]

I hear they cane em in Singapore.
Wish I'd heard about that sooner. Bet they have few repeat offenders.

[Conveyor Belt]

If you've got to spank your kid every day, something is wrong there, IMO.

My kid, as good as he is, gets physical discipline on rare, rare occasions. We tried it for a while, but there was a noticeable difference in his demeanor and the way he interacted with us.

The best way to discipline him is to put him in a corner or take some toys away and put them on a shelf where he can see them but not play with them.

Now, there are times when a quick swat is better, like in fish's case with the leaning over the boat. But then, if the kid has on his life vest, I might have just tipped him on over the side into the water... might have been a better lesson.

[Bluesman]

But then, if the kid has on his life vest, I might have just tipped him on over the side into the water... might have been a better lesson.
Damn boy for a second there you sounded like a redneck!:clap: But you would have to end that little lesson by saying, "Hurt like hell didn't it... Bet you won't do that no more."

[Fish-Bait]

Now, there are times when a quick swat is better, like in fish's case with the leaning over the boat. But then, if the kid has on his life vest, I might have just tipped him on over the side into the water... might have been a better lesson.

Conditions weren't right for tippin' CB. Tide was too fast not to mention we were anchored in 30 ft. of water and jellyfish were abundant. Young-uns under 12 always have to where a life jacket. Over 12 while craft is in motion I believe. Too many folks around anyway. I woulda been reported and in jail rat now....there are extremist out there ya know. They report anything and everything because their momma didn't spank em' when they shoulda been spanked.:-D:smt118