Weddings

[dream member]

Soooooooo to all you married people, mainly females because I think you're the ones who really "concern" yourselves with planning the wedding and getting everything perfect...not just the activities of the honeymoon... :smt118


Have any of you been to a wedding with a 4th of july theme? Riien and I were planning on next October, but I was reading Bride's Guide and it gave me the idea. In planning a wedding, what are some things you probably didn't do that you should have, and vice versa? Any tips would be greatly appreciated! :)

[pinkytuscadero]

As an official Zsa Zsa, here is my two cents.

I had a pretty nice wedding, and spent all my parents would let me spend, and then a little more. I had in my mind the way I wanted it, and tried to make it as nice as I could. I spent money on simple flowers, nice cakes, pretty gifts for people involved. I even had the dress preserved. :smt118 If you and Rhien have the money to spend and you have a fabulous dream, go for it!

My next wedding was in my parent's yard with my Uncle officiating. Small wedding with a reception with dancing. (something that wasn't allowed at the first). A night at the Grand Hotel and a deep sea fishing trip made me very happy. This one has lastest almost 14 years and it wouldn't have mattered if we spent a fortune or not. :-D

So, my point is, do whatever you want and whatever you think you can afford. I WOULD NOT go into debt over it. -:)

[dream member]

As an official Zsa Zsa, here is my two cents.

I had a pretty nice wedding, and spent all my parents would let me spend, and then a little more. I had in my mind the way I wanted it, and tried to make it as nice as I could. I spent money on simple flowers, nice cakes, pretty gifts for people involved. I even had the dress preserved. :smt118 If you and Rhien have the money to spend and you have a fabulous dream, go for it!

My next wedding was in my parent's yard with my Uncle officiating. Small wedding with a reception with dancing. (something that wasn't allowed at the first). A night at the Grand Hotel and a deep sea fishing trip made me very happy. This one has lastest almost 14 years and it wouldn't have mattered if we spent a fortune or not. :-D

So, my point is, do whatever you want and whatever you think you can afford. I WOULD NOT go into debt over it. -:)


Thanks Pinky! Riien feels that for him to take part means to hand me all the plastic and let me buy what I want. I told him if he didn't help me plan it, I'd have his groomsmen in pink and purple...that way he could get beat up after the ceremony! :smt118

It's going to be at a Catholic church; Riien's converting to Catholicism. ONE THING I will DEFINITELY have is someone to set up the reception AND clean for me...being a bridesmaid, I saw the bride and groom clean up at BOTH their receptions...too much trouble...I'll just pay for that!

Band or dj? Still debating there...what about food...buffet or have it served?

[58ford]

Have a simple ceremony, don't buy a dress, don't do all the catered bullsh!t, spend NO money on the wedding!!!!!!! Have a simple ceremony at your or a friend's home, and spend all the money on the honey moon. Trust me the wedding is a couple of hours that are too easy to f**k up. The honeymoon is what you're gonna remember. I know you aren't going to pay any attention to me, but a few months after the wedding PM me to let me know i was right.

[dream member]

Have a simple ceremony, don't buy a dress, don't do all the catered bullsh!t, spend NO money on the wedding!!!!!!! Have a simple ceremony at your or a friend's home, and spend all the money on the honey moon. Trust me the wedding is a couple of hours that are too easy to f**k up. The honeymoon is what you're gonna remember. I know you aren't going to pay any attention to me, but a few months after the wedding PM me to let me know i was right.

I want the big ceremony! I know it's definitely going to be in the church; there are too many people we have to invite to have a small ceremony. We're going to Italy and France for the honeymoon.

[pinkytuscadero]

Try making a list of priorities. I would prefer a great band over fabulous food, but that is me. When you go to a venue and they tell you it is 17.99 per person for food and you tally it up, it is hard to do. Especially when your family ends up taking tons of food home.

After you list your priorities-make a budget. There are plenty of people who have great weddings and they don't spend a fortune.

My parent's 40th anniversary was a wing ding that was as big as a wedding reception because my Mom wanted all the things she didn't get to have at her wedding.

I bought all the table clothes on ebay. It was cheaper than renting and they are mine!
I bought beautiful globes for the tables at the after Christmas sales.
I used CamCo-the discount grocery store to get most of the food. I got a prime rib and a huge pork tenderlion. I seasoned them myself and let Rose's smoke them. They were fine!!!!!
I borrowed serving pieces and several of my friends made different things (lots of people do that for each other)
I supplied a ton of wine and enlisted a friend to serve.
Seattle Drip did a coffee bar thing that was cheap! They even brough it to the clubhouse where the party was held.
I had a huge picture framed with an 6 inch ivory mat. All the guest signed the mat as they entered. It is my Mom's treasured possession right now. She has it in her living room.
Miniature candy bars wrapped in a label with your initials make a great favor for your guest. Cheap, yet pretty.That's all I've got. Are you over me yet? - Don't answer that.

Pinky

[Hermione]

Like Pinky said, don't go into a lot of debt. Don't have little birdseed or petal or bubble things, big mess, lots of trouble for nothing. Have buffet, finger-food. Again, less expense, less mess. Limit the amount of alcohol, mucho $$$. Spend money on flowers, and have a good cake, you'll remember them. Make sure there are lots of cameras. (I didn't have a photographer, just had family members take pictures and they were great.)
Your wedding will grow in the dark, it will get more expensive and more elaborate than you meant for it to, so be stern with yourself about saying "do I really need to do that?" The most important thing is to be with people you love and share your happiness.

[pinkytuscadero]

I want the big ceremony! I know it's definitely going to be in the church; there are too many people we have to invite to have a small ceremony. We're going to Italy and France for the honeymoon.


Wow! What a great honeymoon!

Could you consider a reception at the church for the whole family and friends. Cake, punch and small finger foods? Have an "after party" at a cool place like Donanelle's for your friends.

[dream member]

Like Pinky said, don't go into a lot of debt. Don't have little birdseed or petal or bubble things, big mess, lots of trouble for nothing. Have buffet, finger-food. Again, less expense, less mess. Limit the amount of alcohol, mucho $$$. Spend money on flowers, and have a good cake, you'll remember them. Make sure there are lots of cameras. (I didn't have a photographer, just had family members take pictures and they were great.)
Your wedding will grow in the dark, it will get more expensive and more elaborate than you meant for it to, so be stern with yourself about saying "do I really need to do that?" The most important thing is to be with people you love and share your happiness.

Yall have really good ideas...thanks! :) I'm going to have a lot of help from my family planning it I'm sure. I do want to have a photographer and videographer (is that how you say it? lol)

The dress I want is under a thousand...I think it's only like 500, so that's a plus! :)

[58ford]

Don't start a marriage in debt. Financial problems cause most divorces.
I know you won't pay attention, but start off married life with a nice honeymoon & money in the bank.
There is this new "wedding industry that has grown up around little girls dreams & bleeds them dry & leaves them with a sense of being used. Honestly, what is more important after it's all over pretty pictures of an over priced wedding cake, or memories of loved ones gathered to watch you join with your husband. don't waste your money & the occasion on fluff that doesn't mean anything. You're buy in flash not substance & you're getting ripped off.

[dream member]

Don't start a marriage in debt. Financial problems cause most divorces.
I know you won't pay attention, but start off married life with a nice honeymoon & money in the bank.
There is this new "wedding industry that has grown up around little girls dreams & bleeds them dry & leaves them with a sense of being used. Honestly, what is more important after it's all over pretty pictures of an over priced wedding cake, or memories of loved ones gathered to watch you join with your husband. don't waste your money & the occasion on fluff that doesn't mean anything. You're buy in flash not substance & you're getting ripped off.

Don't be so quick to think I'm going to give all the money and take out loans for the wedding...I can have what I want and still spend sensibly!

[58ford]

I do want to have a photographer and videographer (is that how you say it? lol)
If you insist on a pro Photographer I highly recommend Mon Mussiet I don't think you can do better in this area.

[dream member]

If you insist on a pro Photographer I highly recommend Mon Mussiet I don't think you can do better in this area.

What about on the coast? That's where it's going to be.

[58ford]

What about on the coast? That's where it's going to be.
By the area, Mississippi. I'm pretty sure Mon travels Mon travels.

[pinkytuscadero]

You could have someone take photos, then make your own video using some of the software that eyescene has been discussing. Those videos turn out so nice. You are talking at least 500.00 to spend on something else. I also think you need to check Hudsons for the dress before you spend that much. I promise, back in 1991, my dress was 1,000.00 and it was the worst investment I ever made. My friend's dress was $10.00 at dirt cheap. It was so pretty and simple. I loved it.

Pinky

[58ford]

Oh, dang, pinky, It didn't dawn on me till just now. I have a wedding dress, it's like a size 5 or 6 it's only been used once, but if you want it you can have it free.

[pinkytuscadero]

Oh, dang, pinky, It didn't dawn on me till just now. I have a wedding dress, it's like a size 5 or 6 it's only been used once, but if you want it you can have it free.


I haven't found my next victim yet so maybe we should give it to dream1. teehee:-D

Pinky

[58ford]

I haven't found my next victim yet so maybe we should give it to dream1. teehee:-D

Pinky
Sorry, brain fart, lost focus.

[dream member]

nothing can take the place of standing at the back of the church seeing all your friends and family, knowing that your hubby to be is at the front waiting for you. That walk down the aisle is tremendously moving and believe me, you'll remember the wedding not only 3 months later, but like me, 28 years later!


Awwwww...you've sold me! I was just picturing so much reading that small paragraph! :)

I haven't found my next victim yet so maybe we should give it to dream1. teehee:-D

Pinky

lol, next victim?!

Sorry, brain fart, lost focus.

You..a man..lost focus? I do not believe it! :smt118

[carsalesguy]

we're going to the courthouse. not.

we won't ever get married. i'm afraid of needles- and i'm not going for no blood test since it involves needles

[dream member]

we're going to the courthouse. not.

we won't ever get married. i'm afraid of needles- and i'm not going for no blood test since it involves needles

Did you know that was the only thing that had me reconsidering getting married in this state?!? I'm scared to death! They'll have to tie my arm down for that test!!!!!

[Hermione]

I think Tennessee did away with them a while back, when they realized they were only finding a handful of cases of VD each year via the tests.

[Hermione]

I think Tennessee did away with them a while back, when they realized they were only finding a handful of cases of VD each year via the tests.

[dream member]

I think Tennessee did away with them a while back, when they realized they were only finding a handful of cases of VD each year via the tests.

Oh well there's no worry with that or any other STD...Riien's not my brother; he's from up north. I think skipping this needled test would be beneficial! :-D

Has anyone ever been to a 4th of July themed wedding btw? Know of any place that has those accessories or anything even related? I keep running into bbq's and outdoor camping activites when I search online!

[Monkey]

What about on the coast? That's where it's going to be.

Dream1 my parents have used Sean Smith in Long Beach and have always been pleased with his photography. It's been a while since I've been there, but if he's still there he's very good. His studio used to be on Jeff Davis, but I wonder where he's moved.


My grandmother was the wedding director for First Baptist Church in Jackson, and over her years in that position directed hundreds of weddings. I can remember going with her and sitting on the back pew and watching her put out many fires so that the bride could have a wonderful and memorable day. That is absolutely the key in my opinion. A wedding director can make or break your day. She coordinated everything from the florist, musicians, and bridal party to the photographers, videographers and flow of the reception.

Congratulations on the wedding, and by the way, where on the coast are you getting married?

[dream member]

Dream1 my parents have used Sean Smith in Long Beach and have always been pleased with his photography. It's been a while since I've been there, but if he's still there he's very good. His studio used to be on Jeff Davis, but I wonder where he's moved.


My grandmother was the wedding director for First Baptist Church in Jackson, and over her years in that position directed hundreds of weddings. I can remember going with her and sitting on the back pew and watching her put out many fires so that the bride could have a wonderful and memorable day. That is absolutely the key in my opinion. A wedding director can make or break your day. She coordinated everything from the florist, musicians, and bridal party to the photographers, videographers and flow of the reception.

Congratulations on the wedding, and by the way, where on the coast are you getting married?


I wanted St. Paul's in Pass Christian, but who knows if they'll be back :( Probably Nativity because St. Thomas is gone too. My sister was going to work for Sean Smith; I'm not going to get anyone in LB though...

I'm definitely going to get a director...a professional will be needed for me, because I'm CLUELESS! :smt118

[Hermione]

Ok, 4th of July. If you get married in a Catholic church you can't have decorations except flowers. You can do red, white & blue flowers. You can carry red, white & blue flowers (though it doesn't seem very bridal). Your bridesmaids can wear blue and carry r, w & b flowers. Or they can wear red. You can decorate the reception to the nines with that stuff. Since it's a wedding, I'd go for glittery and sparkling r, w, & b. The reason you're not seeing much about it is that it doesn't really lend itself to a formal wedding. Why not have the rehearsal dinner have the 4th theme instead? Just a thought -- it's your wedding.

[dream member]

Ok, 4th of July. If you get married in a Catholic church you can't have decorations except flowers. You can do red, white & blue flowers. You can carry red, white & blue flowers (though it doesn't seem very bridal). Your bridesmaids can wear blue and carry r, w & b flowers. Or they can wear red. You can decorate the reception to the nines with that stuff. Since it's a wedding, I'd go for glittery and sparkling r, w, & b. The reason you're not seeing much about it is that it doesn't really lend itself to a formal wedding. Why not have the rehearsal dinner have the 4th theme instead? Just a thought -- it's your wedding.

What I really liked that I saw was the themed cake and some of the colors...I think it can be pulled off without being too cheesy. The glitter and sparkly look is really what I wanted...I am going to incorporate sparklers somewhere in that night! :)

[Hermione]

Is this going to be a military wedding?

[dream member]

Is this going to be a military wedding?

Not sure...I told him if he wanted to wear a tux or go the other way it's up to him. I'll be in my beautiful white gown and all eyes will be on me! :smt118

[Hermione]

Trying to upload a picture for you. This was a July 4 event at my mom's house. We have several birthdays that week.

Well, I can't do it. You can go to my gallery and see it if you want to.

http://www.myhattiesburg.com/gallery/displayimage.php?pos=-854

[dream member]

I couldn't get the link to come up.

[Hermione]

Now try. I don't know what I'm doing wrong -- I've posted photos before.

[dream member]

That's a really pretty floral arrangement! I'm thinking I'm going to use red white and blue at the reception. I saw a 4th of july themed wedding cake in bridal guide

[Hermione]

Not sure...I told him if he wanted to wear a tux or go the other way it's up to him. I'll be in my beautiful white gown and all eyes will be on me! :smt118

Just an observation, but I always think it looks funny if only the groom is in uniform. However, if at least one or two more men in the wedding party are in uniform, it looks very sharp, and would tie in with the July 4th theme. My first "wedding" which wasn't really a wedding, was on a military base and the groom was in his uniform. Second husband was career, but chose not to do the military thing, though I would have been ok with it.

[dream member]

Just an observation, but I always think it looks funny if only the groom is in uniform. However, if at least one or two more men in the wedding party are in uniform, it looks very sharp, and would tie in with the July 4th theme. My first "wedding" which wasn't really a wedding, was on a military base and the groom was in his uniform. Second husband was career, but chose not to do the military thing, though I would have been ok with it.

Hmmmm...I didn't even think about that! :) I just liked the idea of having it around that time!

[Kitty]

You could do a picnic theme at the reception, with red checkered tablecloths.

Maybe you could have a fireworks display at the reception, too (I guess that would depend on the location).

You could use red and white flowers (roses, perhaps) and have your attendants wear navy dresses.

[dream member]

You could do a picnic theme at the reception, with red checkered tablecloths.

Maybe you could have a fireworks display at the reception, too (I guess that would depend on the location).

You could use red and white flowers (roses, perhaps) and have your attendants wear navy dresses.

Fireworks is also something I want to have! Keep me away from them though...apparently I'm a pyro! lol

[Hermione]

I like the navy dresses idea!!

[dream member]

Can you do navy in the summer? Or does color and season not matter anymore?

[Kitty]

Can you do navy in the summer? Or does color and season not matter anymore?

IMO, you could do navy in the summer.

[dream member]

IMO, you could do navy in the summer.

Cool...I didn't know how the color "rule" worked. I'm definitely going to get a director to help me with the details. I'll probably need someone to keep my head attached too! :smt118

[justme]

You should go to the book store and pick yourself up an etiquette book. That would help you out alot.

[jessi_s]

I just got married last year. What I did is find a good craftsy friend who then took me to a craft store. We walked around looked at the silk flowers (but we wound up ordering mine off of e-bay actually. White daisies. Beautiful) and other stuff to get ideas. We came up with the idea of instead of having rows we could have round tables and have a centerpiece on each table. We thought of EVERYTHING from glass bowls with floating candles to flower arrangements... but I wanted the traditional rows... So we had a few round tables in the back for gifts and his cake table and my cake table and Then a guestbook table that had pictures of us on it. On his cake table it had pictures of him and him and me and him and his neice... and then mine was decorated with the big cake lol. We actually had a friends mom make our grooms cake. Any way you can cut corners do it. the cakes don't have to be from a bakery. The flowers don't have to be from the crafts store or the flower shop. My dress was $600 and I bought it. I wanted to have my dress in case I have a daughter that wants to wear it one day. I was more traditional in my planning. It was in a church fellowship hall, as well as the reception. Only had to pay for one deposit for the single room. The church let us use some of their decorations... like the columns and candles and candle holders etc. Just try to get ppl to help you out with as much as you can!

[dream member]

I just got married last year. What I did is find a good craftsy friend who then took me to a craft store. We walked around looked at the silk flowers (but we wound up ordering mine off of e-bay actually. White daisies. Beautiful) and other stuff to get ideas. We came up with the idea of instead of having rows we could have round tables and have a centerpiece on each table. We thought of EVERYTHING from glass bowls with floating candles to flower arrangements... but I wanted the traditional rows... So we had a few round tables in the back for gifts and his cake table and my cake table and Then a guestbook table that had pictures of us on it. On his cake table it had pictures of him and him and me and him and his neice... and then mine was decorated with the big cake lol. We actually had a friends mom make our grooms cake. Any way you can cut corners do it. the cakes don't have to be from a bakery. The flowers don't have to be from the crafts store or the flower shop. My dress was $600 and I bought it. I wanted to have my dress in case I have a daughter that wants to wear it one day. I was more traditional in my planning. It was in a church fellowship hall, as well as the reception. Only had to pay for one deposit for the single room. The church let us use some of their decorations... like the columns and candles and candle holders etc. Just try to get ppl to help you out with as much as you can!

Thanks! Do you have any pictures? Two important parts for me- the dress :) and the decorating/undecorating. I don't want to have to do either one.

[jessi_s]

Thanks! Do you have any pictures? Two important parts for me- the dress :) and the decorating/undecorating. I don't want to have to do either one.

And see I did want to decorate, just not undecorate! LOL I love to decorate!! But my bridesmaids and other ppl wouldn't let me lift a finger!!! LOL Yeah, I've got tons of pics on my facebook, Just flip thru my photo album on there and it's wedding 1, 2, and 3 I think it's only 3 of them! Let me know what you think!

[dream member]

And see I did want to decorate, just not undecorate! LOL I love to decorate!! But my bridesmaids and other ppl wouldn't let me lift a finger!!! LOL Yeah, I've got tons of pics on my facebook, Just flip thru my photo album on there and it's wedding 1, 2, and 3 I think it's only 3 of them! Let me know what you think!

I'll definitely do that!

[mac]

what are some things you probably didn't do that you should have, and vice versa? Any tips would be greatly appreciated! :)

There's an entire industry dedicated to getting you to spend money you don't need to spend on your wedding. Decide what's important to YOU as a couple, and keep it simple. At the end of the day, the only thing that's going to matter is that you both showed up, your family and close friends were there to witness your vows, and you meant what you said.

[jessi_s]

There's an entire industry dedicated to getting you to spend money you don't need to spend on your wedding. Decide what's important to YOU as a couple, and keep it simple. At the end of the day, the only thing that's going to matter is that you both showed up, your family and close friends were there to witness your vows, and you meant what you said.

Amen!! LOL my wedding was simple, beautiful, but my favorite picture is a picture of him that his sister took, not the photographer, of his face when I was walking down the aisle, when he first saw me. I didn't want him to see before then and he didn't. And now I have that picture of his face, it was more than worth it.

[daisy]

Dream1, good luck and don't go overboard unless you can.

I remember back in the 40's and 50's when people such as my parents would go to the pastor's home and get married. My mother has on a pretty suit, hat and dad had on a suit.

They were both working and I don't think big weddings were in unless you were rich.

Theirs lasted until he died of cancer.

All Mom's sisters did that. They were from a poor family and knew the value of a dollar. They were all working and all lasted but one. 6 girls.

Well the baby had more of a now wedding but that was in the 60's and they kept it simple. People helped and I was a tea girl at the reception.

The one that got divorced had a 2nd marriage and had it at his home in Cincinnati and flew her mother, and a couple of sister up there for a home wedding. It was her 2nd so she wore a nice suit.

I know someone who was still paying her wedding off alon g with divorce lawyers. Ironic to me.

I missed it somewhere but is your fiancee here in the 'Burg? I am sure he will help if you say this or this?

Or the guest list?

[mberry]

I got married in March at the Crawford House and Gardens. Mitzi, the owner, is THE BEST! I can't even put into words how great she is! If you're looking for a caterer or baker, she can fit your needs. Everything she and her staff did for us was perfect. She has an exceptional cake maker/designer (not sure about the lingo), but my cake was very different and perfect! Everything fit our personal taste (we didn't even know we had personal taste in wedding stuff until our wedding day!) Call her at601.583.9400!

Also, if your looking for a local, well-known, inexpensive, exceptional photographer google Jill Norris Photography. She did our pictures and she did an incredible job! She's on myspace too. She may be booked, so check her out.

I hope this helps! Congratulations on such an incredible new part of your life!

[dream member]

I got married in March at the Crawford House and Gardens. Mitzi, the owner, is THE BEST! I can't even put into words how great she is! If you're looking for a caterer or baker, she can fit your needs. Everything she and her staff did for us was perfect. She has an exceptional cake maker/designer (not sure about the lingo), but my cake was very different and perfect! Everything fit our personal taste (we didn't even know we had personal taste in wedding stuff until our wedding day!) Call her at601.583.9400!

Also, if your looking for a local, well-known, inexpensive, exceptional photographer google Jill Norris Photography. She did our pictures and she did an incredible job! She's on myspace too. She may be booked, so check her out.

I hope this helps! Congratulations on such an incredible new part of your life!

Thanks! I'm really looking forward to this...I've been a bridesmaid twice...time to be a bride! :)

And Heaven forbid if we don't have a baby soon Riien will LOSE his mind! :smt118 I've never met a man who would actually sabotage birth control! lol

[Lil Ray]

Thanks! I'm really looking forward to this...I've been a bridesmaid twice...time to be a bride! :)

And Heaven forbid if we don't have a baby soon Riien will LOSE his mind! :smt118 I've never met a man who would actually sabotage birth control! lol

Dream, whatever you decide I just wanted to say congratulations and best wishes to you and Riien!

[SassyGrl25]

I personally like a simple wedding with a big reception with a band or DJ . . . I think the 4th of July wedding theme is a good idea. I have never heard of that before but think it would be great!

[mac]

When are you getting married, Dream?

[dream member]

When are you getting married, Dream?

Next July

[mac]

You've got plenty of time. You should be able to plan almost anything you want in 6 months' time. I got engaged on March 31, 2006 and got married on July 22 the same year, so we planned ours in less than 4 months, and I didn't have any trouble with things already being booked. I even waited until two weeks before the wedding to look for a photographer. The only thing that stressed me out were the bridesmaids' dresses. Ordering dresses takes forever, so if you're planning to order a wedding dress, do it early. Everything else can wait at least until January.

We got married in Horn Lake, which is close to Memphis, so there might've been more stuff available to us because of Memphis being close. If you're getting married in Hattiesburg there may be fewer options.

Still, I think 6 months of planning is the standard, isn't it?

[dream member]

You've got plenty of time. You should be able to plan almost anything you want in 6 months' time. I got engaged on March 31, 2006 and got married on July 22 the same year, so we planned ours in less than 4 months, and I didn't have any trouble with things already being booked. I even waited until two weeks before the wedding to look for a photographer.

We got married in Horn Lake, which is close to Memphis, so there might've been more stuff available to us because of Memphis being close. If you're getting married in Hattiesburg there may be fewer options.

Still, I think 6 months of planning is the standard, isn't it?

Yeah- we originally wanted to get married in October of this year, but changed that...I think taking a year to plan will give us the opportunity to really look at what we have and don't have financially in order to have a nice wedding and not go overboard.

I'm not getting married in Hattiesburg- after I move I won't be coming back unless I'm visiting. It'll be in Biloxi.

[Hermione]

Reserve the church FIRST.

[dream member]

Reserve the church FIRST.

They book that quick?

[Astra]

Not just the booking, but a lot of your plans are going to hinge on what is available at the church and what the place is like. The absolute last thing you want to do is assume the church will be available and make all your plans without having a reservation set up complete with agreements on what the church provides, allows, and knowing what you need to supply.

[Hermione]

They book that quick?

Yes they do. Like Astra said, you can't make any plans until you have your place and date confirmed. Many people book the church a year in advance.