Snooping through your partner's stuff

[fuzzis]

Heather Locklear is divorcing (http://www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=1598148) her husband Richie Sambora because she found inappropriate photos in his email, and that was the last straw for her.

Would you, or do you, go through your partner's things...like his or her email? cell phone? Is there a situation where you would? How would you feel if your partner went through your things?

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[aaron]

Sounds like an excuse to me. Your married to a famous rocker and you don't like inappropriate pictures in his email? I'm sure she's hurdled a lot more than that during their marriage. She needs a boost to her career, and Sambora doesn't help.

[Susan from H'burg]

NO, I would never snoop through my husband's stuff. I trust him completely, as he does me. Neither of us has anything incriminating anywhere that the other shouldn't see, but it is very important to maintain trust. When my husband wants something out of my purse (i.e., my car keys so he can do something to my car) he will bring the whole purse to me rather than dig through it. We respect each other's space but would never do anything to hurt or betray the other.

These Hollywood marriages (i.e. Locklear's) are truly pathetic. It's really sad.

[wilebill]

My wife looks at my cell phone, my office drawers etc... I thought all women did that. I have no desire to snoop through anybodys things. Why women trip so much?
When I first got married, my wife would rummage through my billfold for no apparent reason. I asked her why she did this and told her not to. She asked me what I had to hide and I told her nothing, but my billfold was mine. Heck, it's something I hold close to my... butt all day long. :)

I told her that I didn't go through her purse, and she said that I could. I told her that I didn't want to because it was hers.

Anyway, she eventually stopped going through my billfold, and I never did go through her purse. I never could figure out why she wanted to in the first place. I guess it's just a woman thing.

[fuzzis]

It's a *some* woman thing. Personally, I could really care less. Do your thing, baby, do your thing. (I'm not going to call and check up on you every hour either)

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[Southern_Belle]

I don't snoop. I completely trust him and have no reason to do that. If a person is snooping, then why be in a relationship... the basis is trust (which is obviously not there if there is snooping going on).

[noway]

Sorry girls of myhattiesburg but its your nature to snoop. Every girl I know either snoops or gets nosey with their man. Its your nature and we have learned to live with it. What always kills me is the girl gets her feelings hurt after they go digging.. This topic just pushes my button... :smt119 :smt119

[fuzzis]

Sorry girls of myhattiesburg but its your nature to snoop. Every girl I know either snoops or gets nosey with their man. Its your nature and we have learned to live with it. What always kills me is the girl gets her feelings hurt after they go digging.. This topic just pushes my button... :smt119 :smt119

Is that kind of like it's in boys' nature to be territorial dogs, marking their property and howling at anything unfamilar that comes around? Or kind of like it's in boys' nature to be wandering dogs, sniffing at anything interesting that comes relatively near their yard?

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(Not that I believe that about boys as I love them dearly :smt050 , but I have come across a few who are that way)

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[Tully Mars]

I am fortunate that my wife has never been one to snoop (not that I have anything to hide) but my kids on the other hand...they are constantly digging through my stuff.

It really comes down to this...we guys have very few things that are truly ours. The house is typically the wife's domain. We generally have our wallets, our vehicles, and our offices (providing that our bosses aren't too snoopy. I really don't see anything wrong with wanting a bit of privacy in terms of not having someone going through our stuff.

If I need something from my wife's purse, etc., I will bring it to her and ask her to get it for me. My wife is usually the same way with my wallet. She doesn't generally dig without asking.

[justme]

Sorry girls of myhattiesburg but its your nature to snoop. Every girl I know either snoops or gets nosey with their man. Its your nature and we have learned to live with it. What always kills me is the girl gets her feelings hurt after they go digging.. This topic just pushes my button... :smt119 :smt119

I take offense to this. I never looked in my husband's wallet, checked the stuff in his cell phone, or anything like that. That is his stuff. I also did not look in drawers that were his either. I do not think it is in all women's nature to snoop. I think that you have not met enough women that are secure with themselves, and who are not dealing with self esteem or insecurity issues.

If you are insecure or have a low self esteem then you will question why this person wants to be with you and will always think that he is looking for someone else. You snoop because you want proof that he is infact doing what you are afraid of. If you are snooping becuase of your insecurity and self esteem issues you are probably doing other things to make him not want to be with you - thus you will find that yes- he is probably looking for someone who is more secure and thinks positively about her self so that she has time to devote to him instead of spending her time worring over stupid stuff and being destructive in a relationship.

just my 2 cents.

[ynotme297]

i`ve been married for almost 39 years, and my wife has never gone through my wallet unless i told her to. if she went through my personal stuff, i never knew about it. thing is, i`ve never hidden anything from her. we have always been truthful with each other. if you have to hide something, then something ain`t right. imho